Today I want to thank you once
again for sending your poems, stories, reflections. Yesterday I posted the 182nd*
writing in a woman's voice. Thank you for sharing your beauty, your courage,
and your confidence.
Confidence. A 2010 Miss Universe incident
has recently crept back into my mind. I don't normally follow beauty pageants, and
haven't done so before or since. But the headlines at the time caught my
attention. Miss Philippines, Maria Venus Raj, favored to win the title, was
asked what had been the biggest mistake she had ever made and how did she
correct it? She answered that in her young life she had never made any major
mistake. Journalists of course quipped that that would have been her first one.
She ended up in fourth place, with minus points for lack of modesty, and
probably a mantle of embarrassment wrapped around her for the rest of her life.
I wish I could tweak a tiny gear
in this world to make a woman's confidence a treasured thing, not something
that detracts from whatever is considered laudable femininity. The typical
woman's mode of operation is to ask: What have I done wrong? If a boyfriend or
husband leaves: What have I done wrong? If a teacher or editor doesn't like
what we write: What have I done wrong? If our children misbehave: What have I
done wrong? Once in a ticket line to The
Passion of the Christ, an evangelical 7-year old girl explained to me how
she, too, even at her tender age, was a sinner, lusting for chocolate, for
example, and such like. Her attitude of indoctrinated self-effacement would
certainly have stood her in good stead as a beauty pageant contestant.
I want our voices to flow and
sing and spill with the innocence of truth and confidence. As Albert Einstein
said: "No problem can be solved from the same
consciousness that created it." Let's build a consciousness of confidence,
for self-doubt sure hasn't worked wonders for us.
In that
spirit, send more stories, poems, essays, meditations, rants. We need your voice.
Be loud. And, too, don't worry about mistakes
We are not
here to be quiet. We are not here to be self-effacing.
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*Why 182? Well, 182 is 2 times
91and 91 is 7 times 13. 4 times 91 plus one (or 2) is the number of days in a
year. There are 91 steps in 4 directions to the top of some Mayan temples. And
now there are 2 times 91 examples here of a women's voices singing into the
world.
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